Why Delay Ejaculation?

If you’re a man with premature ejaculation you’d better watch out!

All the research suggests that women in relationships with men who don’t know how to delay ejaculation are not satisfied with their sex life. Not only that, but they experience a lot more difficulty in their relationships with their men, and they have a lot more sexual problems of their own, than women in relationships where premature ejaculation is not a problem.

Makes you think, yes?

That seems like a heavy burden to carry for a man who ejaculates prematurely. Unfortunately, things are even worse than you might think. It turns out that women who are in relationships with premature ejaculators experience less lubrication during sex, and find it harder to reach orgasm. Why on earth should this be so?

Effects of Premature Ejaculation On Women

The obvious answer is that the men who don’t know how to delay their ejaculation simply don’t perform as well in bed. Perhaps they don’t satisfy their partners sexually. Perhaps they don’t know how to please a woman, and perhaps they’re more anxious when they’re in bed with a woman.

But it’s difficult to separate cause and effect here. (Does the man come quickly because his partner’s not into sex? Or does she fail to get aroused because he comes too quickly? That kind of thing.) What we do know is that about half of the women who are in relationships with men who cannot delay their ejaculations have difficulty reaching orgasm. And that compares to only a quarter of women in the population as a whole.

Now, there’s a link between how easily a woman reaches orgasm and the length of foreplay. That might suggest that men with premature ejaculation don’t enjoy much foreplay with their partners. And indeed, the finger of blame does seem to be pointing at you if you’re a man who ejaculates quickly!

I mean, in truth, if you’re ejaculating prematurely, are you doing the right thing by your woman in bed? In other words, are you making love skillfully and trying to please her, or are you so wrapped up in your own rapid ejaculation problems that you’re forgetting there’s somebody else beside you – or under you – in the bed?

The other problem women have when they’re in a relationship with a premature ejaculator (that’s you, man!) is that when the man ejaculates, sex stops. Sound familiar?

For a woman (and now we’re talking about your partner), who is probably not even very aroused, and in reality may only just be starting to get excited sexually, the end of sex represents a sudden break in intimacy and connection with her partner. Take it from me, women are not happy about this.

You can see this displeasure in the way women react to your lack of knowledge about how to slow down your ejaculation as time goes by in a relationship. Generally, to start with, a woman doesn’t say much about it, because she’s frightened of hurting her partner’s feelings, or making him feel even more sexually inadequate than he already does.

(Oh dear. If a couple don’t talk about something as important as ejaculating too soon during sex, you might think there’s a lack of intimate and honest communication in the relationship anyway.)

However, as time goes by, a woman gets more and more frustrated, and eventually she’s so annoyed with his inability to stop premature ejaculation that she tries to talk about it with him. At this point, the man generally denies there’s a problem or simply won’t talk to her about it. Does that sound familiar? If it does, you’d better change the way you’re acting pretty quickly. (Read on to find out why this delay in coming does you a whole world of good.)

Women in this situation are but a short step away from beginning to feel deep frustration and anger about their man’s premature ejaculation.

Anger about his lack of consideration for her sexual pleasure. And more often than not, these feelings develop into bitterness, contempt and resentment. Now, do you want to live in a relationship where those are the predominant feelings? No, of course not!

So the best reason to find out how to delay ejaculation is that your partner will turn against you sooner or later. Ejaculating prematurely is no good for either of you! (Hint – get the program advertised on the right hand column of this site!)

She’s not going to put up with her lack of orgasms, or with you suddenly and unexpectedly ejaculating during lovemaking, or with the inevitable end to your physical intimacy during sex because you come too soon, for ever.

One way or another she’ll get her revenge on you, even if she has to do it in a passive- aggressive way, by “losing” her sex drive. Or not lubricating. Or not reaching orgasm. And that doesn’t make things any easier for anybody.

And before we draw this dismal information to a close, I should mention that women who are in relationship with men who don’t know how to delay orgasm seem to blame the man for his inability to last longer in bed.

And the significance of that, is what, you may ask? Well, women in relationships with men who have erectile dysfunction blame themselves for his problem. It seems that a man with premature ejaculation just can’t win.

Effects Of Not Knowing How To Delay Ejaculation 

Oh-ho, there’s a lot of information here. Not surprising, because premature ejaculation is one of the big issues for men in a sexual relationship. Oddly, though, even if it makes a man feel sexually inadequate, he often doesn’t do anything about it.

I think that’s because the pleasure and satisfaction of an orgasm is so intense that it can make you forget your partner’s needs even if you regularly blow your load too quickly.

Maybe that’s true and maybe it isn’t.

But here are some facts: men who don’t know how to delay ejaculation say they are less satisfied with sex, that their relationship is more difficult with their partner, and that they’re less satisfied with life in general.

(Compared to men who know how to delay their ejaculation, that is.)

Crikey! It seems that the effects of premature ejaculation go far beyond the bedroom. If you’ve read the section above, you’ll know that women aren’t too chuffed about it either. But for men, it seems to be a major deal — even though, as I said above, they tend not to do anything about it.

So just what does premature ejaculation mean for a man?

First of all, like I said above, not knowing how to slow down ejaculation tends to make him feel sexually inadequate.

Young men who haven’t got a girlfriend say that they don’t like going out and trying to find a relationship because they fear the embarrassment that comes from ejaculating quickly.

They are actually prevented from getting a relationship because they come too quickly. That is no small deal.

Men are often reluctant to talk about premature ejaculation. So a young man may meet a girl but not know how to start talking about his early climax, and then they’re both disappointed when they finally get into bed together and have sex.

Some men avoid the issue by claiming there isn’t any kind of problem, or by saying there’s no point trying to do anything about it because there aren’t any treatments that work. (Huh. Talk about denial.)

The irony is, we are all highly programmed to “perform” in bed, and most men actually want the satisfaction and ego boost that comes from satisfying or pleasuring a woman. (That means, of course, bringing her to orgasm, preferably during intercourse.)

So there’s a real paradox here: on the one hand men want to perform well in bed, and on the other they come quickly, but they don’t bother finding out how to delay ejaculation.

Urrgghhh. But it doesn’t have to be like this, because one of the best treatment programs available is advertised on this website, and you can click on the link to the right-hand side to see exactly what it is. You can also click here to end premature ejaculation, too.